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May 14, 2023 - Musings    No Comments

The Old Phone

“Never underestimate the impression you may make on others and whose life you have touched today!”

The story below is a special one for me. I first read it 15 years ago when i was going through a life transition. Often I do so again to remind me of my continuous opportunities and challenges.

The Old Phone … How Do You Spell Fix?

Author Unknown

When I was quite young, my father had one of the first telephones in our neighborhood. I remember the polished, old case fastened to the wall. The shiny receiver hung on the side of the box. I was too little to reach the telephone, but used to listen with fascination when my mother talked to it.

Then I discovered that somewhere inside the wonderful device lived an amazing person. Her name was “Information Please” and there was nothing she did not know. Information Please could supply anyone’s number and the correct time.

My personal experience with the genie-in-a-bottle came one day while my mother was visiting a neighbor. Amusing myself at the tool bench in the basement, I whacked my finger with a hammer, the pain was terrible, but there seemed no point in crying because there was no one home to give sympathy.

I walked around the house sucking my throbbing finger, finally arriving at the stairway. The telephone! Quickly, I ran for the footstool in the parlor and dragged it to the landing. Climbing up, I unhooked the receiver in the parlor and held it to my ear. “Information, please” I said into the mouthpiece just above my head. A click or two and a small clear voice spoke into my ear. “Information.”

“I hurt my finger…” I wailed into the phone, the tears came readily enough now that I had an audience.

“Isn’t your mother home?” came the question.

“Nobody’s home but me,” I blubbered.

“Are you bleeding?” the voice asked.

“No,” I replied. “I hit my finger with the hammer and it hurts.”

“Can you open the icebox?” she asked. I said I could.

“Then chip off a little bit of ice and hold it to your finger,” said the voice.

After that, I called “Information Please” for everything. I asked her for help with my geography, and she told me where Philadelphia was. She helped me with my math. She told me my pet chipmunk that I had caught in the park just the day before, would eat fruit and nuts.

Then, there was the time Petey, our pet canary, died. I called, “Information Please,” and told her the sad story. She listened, and then said things grown-ups say to soothe a child. But I was not consoled. I asked her, “Why is it that birds should sing so beautifully and bring joy to all families, only to end up as a heap of feathers on the bottom of a cage?”

She must have sensed my deep concern, for she said quietly, “Paul always remember that there are other worlds to sing in. “Somehow I felt better. Another day I was on the telephone, “Information Please.”

“Information,” said in the now familiar voice. “How do I spell fix?” I asked.

All this took place in a small town in the Pacific Northwest . When I was nine years old, we moved across the country to Boston. I missed my friend very much. “Information Please” belonged in that old wooden box back home and I somehow never thought of trying the shiny new phone that sat on the table in the hall. As I grew into my teens, the memories of those childhood conversations never really left me. Often, in moments of doubt and perplexity I would recall the serene sense of security I had then.  I appreciated now how patient, understanding, and kind she was to have spent her time on a little boy.

A few years later, on my way west to college, my plane put down in Seattle. I had about a half-hour or so between planes.  I spent 15 minutes or so on the phone with my sister, who lived there now. Then without thinking what I was doing, I dialed my hometown operator and said, “Information Please.” Miraculously, I heard the small, clear voice I knew so well. “Information.”  I hadn’t planned this, but I heard myself saying, “Could you please tell me how to spell fix?”

There was a long pause. Then came the soft spoken answer, “I guess your finger must have healed by now.”  I laughed, “So it’s really you,” I said. “I wonder if you have any idea how much you meant to me during that time.”

“I wonder,” she said, “if you know how much your call meant to me. I never had any children and I used to look forward to your calls.” I told her how often I had thought of her over the years and I asked if I could call her again when I came back to visit my sister.

“Please do”, she said. “Just ask for Sally.”

Three months later I was back in Seattle. A different voice answered, “Information.” I asked for Sally.

“Are you a friend?” she said.

“Yes, a very old friend,” I answered.

“I’m sorry to have to tell you this,” she said. “Sally had been working part-time the last few years because she was sick. She died five weeks ago.”  Before I could hang up she said, “Wait a minute, did you say your name was Paul?”  “Yes.”  I answered.

“Well, Sally left a message for you. She wrote it down in case you called.  Let me read it to you.”

The note said, “Tell him there are other worlds to sing in.  He’ll know what I mean.”

I thanked her and hung up.  I knew what Sally meant.

Never underestimate the impression you may make on others and whose life you have touched today!

Jan 1, 2023 - Musings    No Comments

Leadership & Management

“Vision without Action is a daydream.
Acton without Vision is a nightmare.”

– Japanese Proverb

“Leadership is a “can-do”, “get-it-done”,
“everyone-pull-together”, “whatever-it- takes” attitude.”

– Orville Schell

Giving homage to the thousands of books on management techniques, I still claim that Leadership and Management are more art than science, although techniques can be learned.  Effective techniques must accommodate culture and environment.  Measuring and monitoring what is actually occurring with management interventions must be ongoing.  Timely decisiveness is crucial to effective management and leadership.  We must learn to take advantage of current fortune and be alert not to relax or underinvest in developing future options.

Always have a back-up plan.
Always have an exit strategy.
Always have an alternative airfield.

Always start your Plan with 4W + H:

– What?
– Who?
– Where?
– Why?
– How?

Colin Powell advised that the probability of success for any endeavor requires obtaining 40 to 70 percent of the essential information and then “go with your gut”.

A good friend, who is a very senior executive of Chevron, advises the following,

Good leaders are well grounded, introspective and humble. They never let power or ego blind them.  Good leaders have passion and a bias for action.  Leaders are not afraid to make mistakes but they are determined to learn from them.  Responsible leaders don’t accept the status quo and always work to change the outcome.  These leaders see the innate potential in people and unlock it. Through inspiration and role-modeling, these leaders win the hearts and minds of everyone around them and get more from their people than humanly possible.

Management and Leadership must co-exist.  Good observation skills coupled with people-skills are essential for effective Management / Leadership.

Successful Leadership / Management strategies and processes must emanate from the synergistic intersection where courage, action, and responsibility meet.

Six P’s of Effective Leadership / Management

Proper Prior Planning Prevents Poor Performance.

My Operating Definition of Leadership:

Lead – to be out-in-front
Ship – a transport system

Therefore, for me, Leadership is a process that moves you forward, puts you out-in-front, that is synonymous with influence, authority, power, and the ability to get things done. This process is vital for personal and organizational effectiveness.

Responsible leadership is taking charge, even if only of oneself, to move toward a better place.

While researching principles for Leadership several concepts became apparent:

  • The wisdom and advice for improved life experience through personal resolve apply to effective Responsible Leadership
  • The corollary is also true: the principles for Responsible Leadership apply to strengthening personal resolve and enhancing an individual’s life experience.

The principles of Responsible Leadership, the attributes, and the contributions are goals and actions that anyone can use in any situation.

Leadership is a privilege.  An appreciative public showers effective responsible leaders with acknowledgment and social and financial benefits.

My selection of Small Bites represents my primary life-bias.  My comments in introducing Small Bites were not originally intended to editorialize as the categories and selections speak for themselves.  The chapter headings are themselves a recommended pathway.  Yet, I concur with recent criticisms about the loss of focus on the important things driving social and personal progress. 

Since the 1980’s, in my opinion, too many of our brightest young people, those most likely harboring the promise of greatest social contributions, have chosen not to work in the fields related to STEMM (Science, Technology, Engineering, Math, and Medicine).  Many instead have opted to work in the Wall Street linked industries where, in my opinion, relatively less lasting social value is created or contributed.  Many suggest that this imbalance of talent and power in the financial industries have exacerbated the dangers of debt-fueled economic growth and spirally debt crises with the social ills of growing inequality and money influence on politics. 

Some of the major societal growth drivers, which need our near-term attention and improvement are:  public education, physical health and fitness, renewable energy grids, land-based and digital infrastructures and accessibility.  While the Liberal Arts can contribute great value in lifting the human spirit, the STEMM competencies are in short supply and are needed to address many of the major issues impacting our societies. 

Oct 10, 2022 - Musings    No Comments

8 Cheat Codes for Life

  • Embrace People. I don’t mean run around hugging everyone, although that might be good, too. … 
  • Forgive Easily. … 
  • Be Positive. … 
  • Live Within Your Means. … 
  • Give. … 
  • Do Something. … 
  • Go Outside. … 
  • Sleep.
Apr 29, 2022 - Musings    No Comments

SELF-KNOWLEDGE

Operations Manual

“The essential meaning and purpose of life is to become the best version of yourself.” – Mathew Kelly

“You are today where your thoughts have brought you; You’ll be tomorrow where your thoughts take you.” – James Allen

Our brain is sometimes compared to a computer in that you can only take out what you put in. Our brains are infinitely more complex than a computer and are capable of creative thought, yet the comparison has some merit in that it is a strong caution to be wary of the “garbage in, garbage out” syndrome. It is up to us to put in information and concepts that will promote our well-being and success. If we do not do our own programming, someone else will do it for us.

With this in mind I work to supply my Inner Voice with supportive material for positive programming. I know that my Inner Voice, the good one that knows and wants the best for me is like a muscle—it gets stronger with exercise. I must Use it or lose it.

A question that I continually ask my Inner Voice is, “What different attitudes should I program and what actions should I take if I lived to honor the truth that integrity has more value than money, position, or ego?”

I also know that it is important to realize that my Inner Voice is separate from my Ego. Emotions like anger, resentment, pride, or embarrassment are ego-connected and cause me to be self-absorbed. Body hits like these are not signs from my Inner Voice. To hear my Inner Voice clearly, I have to get Ego out of the way.

Getting Ego out of the way is a constant challenge for me. Ego always wants to compare my actions and results to others. I work to not let my short-comings define me. I claim that I am my own authority for my self-worth. I affirm that Spirit as speaking through my Inner Voice only wants the best for me and reminds me to be generous with compassion for myself and others.

I have found that compassionate thoughts must become ingrained habits. Coloring and immersing our thoughts with the wisdom of others works to strengthen our Inner Voice. Remember, if you are not doing your own programming, someone will do it for you.

The Proverbs caution, “As a man thinketh in his heart, so is he.”

As the Roman Emperor and Stoic philosopher, Marcus Aurelius (121 – 180 AD) advised, “Such as they are, thy habitual thoughts, such also will be the character of your mind; for the Soul is dyed by these thoughts.”

Apr 19, 2022 - Musings    No Comments

Love, Caring, and Giving a Damn

Today’s Quote for Courage and Action:

“There is a life we hope for, the one we long for, dream of and pray for. And, there is Life. The one we have today. Let’s just say that the two don’t always see eye to eye.

But what if we are invited to bring our whole heart to this moment.

The permission to embrace our vulnerability; open to human brokenness, fragile nature, of love and caring and giving a damn.”

   – Rev. Terry Hershey

  • Awareness?
  • Application?
  • Actions?

Today is Your Day #1!

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